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“Bitch Is The New Black” (The Plight Of The Single Black Female) – Coming Soon
Ladies, you likely won’t find many other staunch male supporters of black women than yours truly, as evident in several of my postings and comments on this blog; however, can I just say one thing: having a college degree, and a career, doesn’t automatically entitle you to a mate. Maybe a job, some disposable income, and a higher tax bracket… but not a man. This stereotype of the lonely, educated, successful black woman is getting old folks! If you’ve come to believe that there aren’t any so-called “suitable black men” who match your person, then, by all means, date non-black men!! One of my sisters is married to a white man, and I could care less, as long as she’s happy. If you feel that you’re limiting yourself, then, for heaven’s sake, STOP LIMITING YOURSELF!! There are roughly 6 billion people on this planet, about half of which are men, so, open yourselves up to the possibilities. HOWEVER, be sure that your selling points aren’t relegated to just your education and socioeconomic status, or, as I’ve experienced in some instances, your, ahem, feminine parts!
And finally, this notion that somehow it’s soooo much easier for men to find mates, is also just as trite. I’ve been in and out of the dating pool over the years, and trust me, it’s hard out there for all of us – especially in a jungle like New York City. I still have my own set of standards, expectations, etc, as does everyone else, and I refuse to settle, no matter what the ratio between women and men is. I want to continue to empathize, but, some of you make it very difficult to do so! I’m sure you’re wondering where all this is leading to… well, there’s an article in the Washington Post that’s been quickly getting around the web today, written by Helena Andrews (caricatured in the cartoon above), a 29-year-old black woman, single, & living in Washington, D.C., who, the article says, might be the star of a black Sex and the City movie. You see, the film rights to Helena’s yet-to-be-published book, Bitch Is the New Black, described as a satirical look at successful young black women living in Washington, were recently purchased. Shonda Rhimes, the executive producer of Grey’s Anatomy (also a black woman, by the way), is set to produce the feature film, with Andrews writing the screenplay. No idea who will direct or star. Andrews pitched the book, stating that it’s part Bridget Jones’s Diary, and part Sex and the City, and it’ll be published in June 2010 by Harper Collins. Reading the article about Andrews, as she makes her case on the difficulties she faces finding a suitable black man, she does herself no favors, as I see it. As the title of her book suggests, she describes herself as “mean,” and she essentially looks down on the men she dates, even the “nice” ones. She’s certainly free to have her standards, but recognize that what you “put out” will be received accordingly, and she comes across as depressed, with all her self-loathing, which isn’t at all attractive. Other than emphasizing her degree, her job, the closet full of clothes and shoes she has, and real estate, she says nothing about what makes her a real catch; she really doesn’t demonstrate (or even bother to state) reasons why any man would want to be in a relationship with her! I wouldn’t want to be in relationship with her! My response to her would be, so what? I can appreciate and understand some of the issues she brings up, but her approach is all wrong, and she’s painting herself into a corner that won’t bring her anything but the superficiality she puts out! SOOOO… here we go again with the same song – this time dealt with in a feature-length film. I’m getting tired of hearing it – not when it’s handled without much real depth and understanding. And frankly, as I’ve said on this blog previously, whiners irk me, especially those who are partly responsible for their plight, or are in a position to do something about it! I’m guessing, with Shonda Rhimes at the helm, the film shouldn’t have too much difficulty attracting star power and financing, given her track record in television, and we’ll likely see it in theatres late next year, or the year after. At the very least, I certainly hope they change the title. Bitch Is The New Black just doesn’t sound very inviting. And if you think my post is just the expected ramblings of a black man, I encourage you to take a look at Nadra Kareem’s post at Racialicious on the article, and all the comments, mostly from women, that follow. Also, for a lighter POV on the matter, read The Champ’s list of 7 things women like Andrews can do to improve their relationship fortunes, over at the Very Smart Brothers blog. So, anyway… coming soon to a theatre near you: Bitch Is The New Black. “I’m a mean woman. I don’t date nice people. That’s why I’ll be alone for the rest of my life. I will always have to settle,” Helena Andrews says. Well, with that kind of attitude my dear, you’re probably right! Boo-hoo… 32 comments to “Bitch Is The New Black” (The Plight Of The Single Black Female) – Coming Soon |
  
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Let the church say AMEN!!!
Yeah… drop this in the “marketing your misery” file. I mean, to be fair, I haven’t read the book, but I don’t understand what’s so appealing/engaging/insightful about a movie featuring a perpetually frustrated, fiscally focused and deeply unfulfilled female… What’s even more bizarre and sad is that some youngin’s are going to look to this project as some sort of feminist tome, when truly, it is anything but…
My initial reaction to this before reading the article in detail (and I haven’t heard about the book but might check it out) is that the story is old and one that is repeated so often that even happily married women are depressed about it!
I just finished reading Elizabeth Gilbert’s “Eat, Pray, Love,” which I had refused to read on numerous occasions over the last 3 years because I didn’t think that, as a black woman, I would find much in common with this white chick’s journey through Italy, India, and Indonesia to regain her sense of self. Yet, I must humbly admit that I find her soul-searching to be a far more meaningful exploration with which I can identify (and I think the movie based on her book is slated for 2010) than where Bitch is the new black might be headed. I don’t intend to dismiss the hardships of the dating life, but I do think that whether single or in a relationship, that time of our lives should be experienced fully and not wasted pining for what we don’t have. Maybe I’ve been brainwashed by The Secret and The Law of Attraction (I admit this!) but I do believe you attract what you are. Helena is focused on money and status seemingly more so than love and I’ll be damned if she didn’t get a movie deal out of this so life for her ain’t all bad!!!!
I read the article in the WPost last week and I thought to myself “here we go again.” I echo Tambay’s thoughts completely. This pity party has to stop sometime. Right?
i saw this on a website yesterday. i think i ran across a video of her speaking. i just looked it over. she seems a bit stand offish but here is a question for you tambay what do you think makes a woman deserve a mate? i\’m not saying that financial success means you should have one but that certainly is how it goes for most men. to me telling a black woman she is lonely by choice to me is saying that she needs to settle for any ole nice guy that comes her way regardless of what else he has going. i don’t like all the black male and female bashing that is going around. i saw there was a new website on boycotting black men. i was shocked. even here where they follow Confucianism it is normal in their culture to get married and have kids that’s what they do. it is no longer a norm in the u.s. here it is not about settling it is about societal norms. i really think we are confused in the u.s. we have all these standards but folks weren\’t raised to fit those standards. not that i’m on team korea
I don’t think anyone, male or female, automatically deserves anything or anyone. As the joke goes, the only two things that are guaranteed in life are death and taxes. Nothing else. By all accounts, I’m successful at what I do, but I don’t now suddenly feel entitled to a mate. I still have to work for it, especially if I don’t want to “settle.”
Also I didn’t intend to imply that she should “settle” either. But rather that women like her need to first consider what they’re “putting out,” and secondly, stop blaming everyone else but themselves for their individual situations. It’s not entirely one way or the other. There’s blame to go around.
One thing I’ve learned about life is if you’re not getting what you want from it, as opposed to looking outside yourself and to others for answers, look within. That might sound trite, but I think it’s true. It’s a some times harsh world out there, and we’re all living in it, trying to find our own individual paths to happiness.
But yes, I agree… there’s a lot of black male/black female bashing going around, however, again, my intent wasn’t to bash any gender.
oh yea tambay i think i know you enough now to know you weren’t bashing anyone except maybe her and her i’m mean so be it thing. i like your response. i’ve heard many people say you are single b/c you choose to be lonely. i agree there is plenty of blame to go around. my mother is always saying we need those old southern values back.
Interesting question, MLM. Incidently, I don’t think the US is particularly confused. I live in the UK and, while living single is becoming more common place in general, I think that for black people (black women?) in particular it seems that the confusion is above average.
I think there’s a shift in societal norms in the US and UK (which tends to follow US trends, eventually) and certainly some kind of crisis going on with regard to how men and women relate to each other generally, paricularly among black men and women in the diaspora (unless they’re still quite attached to and in touch with their traditional African or Carribean roots).
But my question would be what’s so unusual about a female centred story of woe? So this story happens to be from a black woman’s perspective? Makes sense to me. Finally black women are gaining financial and social clout. It seems to me like Hollywood is going back to traditional themes of a mythical romance and the most important validation of a woman’s existence being in relation to a man, regardless of what else she might accomplish in life. Personally, some of the most miserable moments of my life have been when I’ve succumbed to the brainwashing that I need to have a man to validate my existence or worthiness. Don’t get me wrong, I like the idea of a stable, loving relationship, but I don’t need one to validate me, and the sooner I remember this in my lapses into the brainwashed state, the sooner I get out of my pity party and get on with life… until the next time. lol.
But hey, fairytales serve their purpose in maintaining a societal status quo – whether it be men risking all to save the day, or women waiting to be rescued – and far be it for Hollywood not to make a buck by reminding women that they can’t have it all!
@Taisha:
You stole the words right from my mouth in regards to EAT, PRAY, LOVE. I was VERY resistant to reading it as well. Once I got the book in my hands, I could NOT put it down! Her journey was so personal yet I felt it was written specifically for me. It was food for the soul.
I wish more books were written in this same manner rather than the destructive and divisive poison that Ms. Andrews (and others) are so hell bent on dishing out…especially about Black women. Now, I have not read the book, but from the excerpts that I’ve come across, I can tell it’s more of the same …granted with some truths, but told in a way that doesn’t represent Black women in a positive light. We are not ALL Bitches! Many of us (MOST of us) are kind,loyal,loving, hard-working women looking to find our life partners that can bring equal amounts of those same qualities to the table. Stability, sexiness, humility and a sense of humor wouldn’t hurt either
seems like this is all a way of marketing to the successful black women who feel like she does. and i do believe there is a market. lol
@ms woo i understand you. there has been a major shift in societal norms. here is a thought i wonder how many people think we should go back to the days of the women raising the children and not working? how many women would be okay with that if men took over the role of breadwinner? but sigh i have been in the same places as you. dang imagine if 50% of the romance films were like 50% of real life relationships.
now, that i think about it tambay the financial success meaning you deserve a man thing makes a woman sound snobby. like she is saying i got stuff going on and all these other women don\’t or men don\’t want me cause i\’m too good for them. that\’s like saying a guy is gay b/c he doesn\’t want to date you.
this whole idea is not productive or positive in anyway.
Um… OK… After having finally read the Washington Post article, I’m wondering the cause for such a vitriolic response from you, Tambay, especially given your usual staunch male support for black women.
I thought it might have an issue regarding inter-racial dating, giving some of your paragraphs above – but it doesn’t. I thought it would be particularly disparaging of black men too – but it wasn’t.
It was certainly a depressing article to read, tinged with self-pitying navel gazing and second-guessing ruefulness (and the suicide of a friend will probably do that to a person), but it’s based on this woman’s experience, and an experiene that many black women on the wrong side of 30 who’ve done everything that’s supposed to put them on the fast track to attainign the American dream can probably relate to.
And it might seem like an age old stereotype to you (maybe because in your real life experiences you come up against these women who probably complain right to your face about the lack of “good black men”), but it’s actually a relatively new phenomenon which black women in their 20s to early 40s are having to experience in ways that their mothers didn’t.
Yes, it’s another pity party from a black woman’s perspective but, as we’ve discussed in off blog conversations, that’s hardly surprising – we were pretty much expecting a barrage of these stories, especially if Precious made any box office or critical ripples, which it did.
Personally, I’m just surprised that this demographic is actually in serious contention for box office treatment. Black women who seem to have succeeded in a white man’s world are certainly a rarity on the big screen, and the details of their personal lives even less so (they usually don’t even have personal lives, just husbands or boyfriends nobody gets to see them really interact with on a particularly intimate level). So that a black woman should be seen to yearn for intimacy and have to examine why she isn’t finding it is a new slant I happen to welcome. I just hope the film has a strong emotional and intellectual core to it.
But, then again, as I intimated in my earlier comment, I’m hoping the film won’t just end up being a cautionary tale for women (particularly black women) to stop aiming too high and remember to set their glass ceiling lower than everyone elses since the only real ambition any woman should strive for is having a man, regardless of whether or not she has emotional issues that need resolving first (and who doesn’t?). Mind you, with Shonda Rhimes exec producing, there is hope.
Like mlm says, I’m finding this antagonistic undercurrent among black men and women quite unsettling and ultimately unproductive – I just hope this film will actually seek to explore or explain this phenomenon rather than drive that wedge even deeper.
I don’t think you should set your hopes to high for this movie. From what I can tell, this woman still hadn’t learned her “lesson”.
I just went and read the article and I think this woman is sadly spiritually bankrupt. If she wants to stop feeling lonely maybe she should go help someone else who is possibly worse off than her? Maybe visit an old folks home or volunteer at a homeless shelter or soup kitchen. In between that she might need to hop over to her local church or mosque and then maybe a weekly trip to the therapist. How many times was that refrain uttered in the article “nice clothes, good job”? What made those girls think that those things were what lead to happiness? I mean, Sex and The City was a fun show but those women were MISERABLE. If this woman and her ilk think that walking this wrong path will get them to the right destination than I truly pity them and I will pray for some sort of WAKE UP! moment.
LOL! Don’t confuse my hope with being naive. My hope does not lay with the author but with Shonda Rhimes. The book is only the basis for the film and is far from being the first draft of the script, let alone the film.
My hope (and faith, I guess) is that Ms Rhimes will put this through the development mill and turn out a flim with some depth and insightfulness; a film which, though it might have characters who are both callow and shallow, will seek to explore their emotional retardation rather than just glorify their sad malaise or hold it up for others to scoff at.
I didn’t think my response was that vitriolic, was it?
If I may say… it might seem like something new to those of you over on the other side of the Atlantic, but, believe me, it’s a regular lament over here, and actually has been for a few years, especially in the bigger cities like New York. Maybe there’s just now more attention being given to it by the mainstream press here, but it’s been in the air for some time, even prior to a film like “Something New” 3 years ago.
CNN recently aired an entire episode on the subject, during its “Black In America” series run, a few months ago, and articles like this one by Helena aren’t anything new; this is just the first I decided to post about; and recent films like “Mississippi Damned” and “Precious” have inspired similar conversations; It’s something that’s repeated on blogs I read, TV shows many of us watch, and, as you noted, I hear it directly from a few black women I know personally, but also not-so personally, and have heard it for a number of years now; and, quite frankly, as I noted, some of these women are partly responsible for their predicaments.
So, yes, it starts to grate on the ears a bit, because, often, it does veer into male-bashing/blaming territory – some times full-on male-bashing/blaming. After awhile, they all just start to sound the same, and engender similar feelings in me. I’m usually very patient and sympathetic on these kinds of issues, but it’s just gotten old.
So, my response wasn’t directed solely at Helena; she’s part of a “trend;” it was more of a result of cumulative experiences, and directed at others like her as well. And, if anything, I fully support and encourage black women like her to look “outside” to find what they’re looking for, if they’re not finding it in black men, whatever those things are. The stats say that more and more black men are doing just that (dating outside race), so, why not black women! Go for it!
Also, perception isn’t necessarily reality, and when these ideas are repeated enough, they become self-fulfilling. To me, it’s really not all that different from black people, in general, blaming whites for almost every hurdle we face, or looking to white people to “save” us, without considering how we can help ourselves. This reads in very much the same way, except instead of race, gender is the divide – and women like her seem to be blaming almost everyone else (or more specifically, black men, whether directly or indirectly), for their situations, instead of looking to themselves.
The issues she raises are the results of much larger societal ills that aren’t really being addressed, and that we continue to ignore. So, if she wants to have a discussion about those core issues, and how we can tackle them, instead of this personal offshoot “woe-is-me” tragi-tale which, as I’ve noted, is just more of the same, I’ll support that 100%.
Kudos to her on the film being made; but, frankly, I really don’t expect it to be anything that challenges, or as you said, has a “strong emotional and intellectual core to it.” That’ll be great if it does! But, as I’m sure you realize, films like that rarely get made in Hollywood… especially when there are black people in them… unless it’s independently financed, a la films like “Precious.”
It’ll be produced, released in theatres, make a bit of a splash, and inspire the same kind of contentious and fruitless dialogue between black men and black women we’ve already heard repeatedly, and, ultimately, nothing will change. It’ll be back to the same old drag… until we actually tackle the root issues head on.
You might have hit upon something there… We certainly have our issues, but they don’t quite seem to be as bad as they are over on that side of the pond – or maybe w’ere just less vocal about it – plus, the option of inter-racial dating seems more readily accepted/able here too, so probably takes off some of the pressure, especially among those of the writers’s age.
I have to say that after reading your post, then the comments here and then reading the WaPo article, I couldn’t quite figure out why anyone would react so harshly (yes, it seemed a little harsh, especially as I know that’s not the norm) to the petulant whining of someone who seemed to be on the a-bit-too-fast-track to a good thing (her eyes seemed squarely fixed on the skies rather than the prize) but was screaming that her happiness wasn’t being served quite quick enough.
Let’s face it, most people under 30 these days (here in the UK as well as the US) feel that happiness should be theirs on demand and treat it as though it were just as disposable – a “winter boo” no less…!
But since leaving my last comment, I’ve read the article again (to make sure I hadn’t missed some huge chunk of information the first time). It was when I then read the racialicious and smart brother posts and comments that I started to realise that maybe I had missed something… Turns out what I’d missed was the beginning of a debate which everyone seemed tired of but which I seem to have joined late.
Still, I still feel that this film could be used as an opportunity give the debate, which everyone is tired of but which still clearly needs examining, a fresh treatment rather than just hashing up the same tired arguments… Yes, I know, I know! That’s why I said “could be!”
MSWOO, these movies and books have been coming in fast and furious way before Precious. Whenever there is a modern story done about a group of black women in fiction or film this is typically the topic it deals with. Its what the book industry wants and apparently its what the film industry wants. If not that its an interracial tale. Are there no other stories? Are there no black equivalent of the type of white romantic comedies out there in theaters, even the pedestrian ones? You know countless young black men get involved with gangs because of the environments they grow up in. But when that storyline seemed to be the only type of film being made about black American life people got fed up with it pretty quickly. So when do they get fed up with this played out storyline that Ms Andrews is selling? And if we want to discuss suffering and issues that black people still face well then there are plenty of tales about different forms of racism to explore and yet the book industry and Holywood rarely touch that topic. So isn’t it suspicious that this topic is one they are comfortably willing to mine again and again?
"But hey, fairytales serve their purpose in maintaining a societal status quo – whether it be men risking all to save the day, or women waiting to be rescued – and far be it for Hollywood not to make a buck by reminding women that they can’t have it all!"
I think this is all the more reason to rail against them. Whether they like it or not the people off Hollywood ARE social change agents. History evidences that (I mean, once upon a time we could only play maids and porters) and they are now Globally influential. So it’s time for another sea change.
I have some fairly strong views on this WP post & Helena. I recorded a video response (work place safe): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H1QElbYkPxY
I likey! However, you forgot to mention that women should be looking for men who have the investing rather than shopping mentality too. That way, surely she’ll be less likely to attract shoppers herself and more likely to, as Tambay says in this post:
“be sure that [her] selling points aren’t relegated to just [her] education and socioeconomic status, or… feminine parts!”
Paul, I watched (and loved!) your video and left a comment to that effect on the Youtube. But I figured since I’m already in discussion here, I’d continue here.
One thing you didn’t (directly) address, that I think people are afraid to talk about is the fact that many of we young black people don’t know how to be in functional relationships. If we are to believe what Ms. Andrews says about her life in the article, her mother exposed her to a bit of chaos in her childhood and I am not sure whether she grew up in the presence of a stable relationship (lesbian or otherwise). I grew up with my father present (though divorced from my mother) and then a stepfather came into the picture. Though I didn’t suffer from any “absentee” men in my life, I still don’t feel like I got a good model of how a relationship should work from my parents’ interactions. As a result, I’ve really suffered to make my relationships work and I am still in the slow slog of figuring out how to be the (loving, communicative, supportive) wife I should and want to be.
I think a lot of these women think “I’m pretty enough, smart enough, successful enough, if I am having failings in the relationship department, it must be ’someone else’s’ fault.” But the truth is technical competency does not equate emotional maturity or even the ability to do the day to day stuff that it takes to make a healthy relationship grow. I think the first step like in any 12 step program is to throw up your hands and say you are powerless and need help. God can do it! I know it is hard for such proud and successful people to do this; it is much easier to wear this “mask” and screw up your face and fold your arms. But what we get in life is always a reflection of who we are. If we want more, we have to be more. And that sometimes calls for courage and humility.
I am new to commenting on this blog but nevertheless, I have a few thoughts so here goes…I live in DC and will admit one thing dating here is HARD for single, black professional women (not saying that it is not hard for others in other cities or socioeconomic levels but I have never walked in their shoes). While I do not agree with the views of Ms. Andrews, I can at least somewhat understand. Too many black women are having similar issues (of course, we all know people who are married; but do most of them stay that way? And I am not talking about our parents but people who are in their 30’s/early 40’s) Either there are some real problems going on in black male/female relationships or maybe a good number of black women are delusional when they say that they cannot find a mate to marry.
I am not sure of the answer (I am married now) but I met so many players, hustlers, married men, etc. in my dating journey that I started to get a little sick of it all. Or, I have met married women who find out on the humble that their husband is cheating on them with some female or male.
I know the old sayings “you attract what you are” yadda, yadda, yadda but I am not a hustler or a player. Never was…So what is really going on?
I don’t believe that the problems you list are specific to black relationships. For example, you wonder about divorce; divorce rates are abysmal across all color lines, here in the USA. It’s not just a black phenomenon.
Also, there are cheaters and players of all skin colors; this isn’t something that’s particular to black men. White men cheat with the same frequency, if not more often. No matter what corner of the planet you live in, you’ll likely find unfaithful men. Not just black men.
And… we need to be careful with generalizations. We tend to just throw out words like “Too many,” or ” the majority of,” or “a lot of,” as you do when you say, “too many black women are having similar issues,” without any real quantifiable evidence. Frequent use of those terms doesn’t make the argument true. We make these unproven claims and they are repeated and then accepted as the norm, while no one bothers to check facts.
And finally, in my 15 or so years of dating/relationship experiences, I’ve met women I’d consider just as undesirable (who were so for one reason or another), as the undesirable men you say you met before you got married. But I’m not suddenly questioning “what is really going on.” It’s par for the course.
We’ve had this conversation . . . there is not always a study to give you the numbers . . . you just start looking around, and talking, and listening . . . and you keep hearing the same thing over and over. . . in different cities, on different continents. . . . qualitative data can be just as eye opening as quantitative data.
Well, take a look around you. If the overall response to Helena’s article is anything to go by, not only on this blog, but on several others I’ve read, with the majority being from black women, she, and women like her, are in the minority, because, I can say, both quantitatively and qualitatively, based on the responses, that most black women clearly don’t share her sentiments. So, maybe she should instead be talking to those women to find out why they don’t share her POV, and maybe even learn something, because neither quantitative nor qualitative data support her claims.
that being said why do black men suggest dating outside the race for a black woman like it will solve her dating problems? as much as i’ve heard black women complain we still love black men to death. i just watched medicine for melancholy last night and loved that movie. i felt like this dude was in my head. if you’ve seen it you know how this relates. it was a black man complaining about us not sticking together. love is love just saying love doesn’t seem to be happening like it used to. folks are shopping for something new.
Great post. I loved it so much I quoted you in my own piece on Andrews. I’d love it if you took a read. In The Company of Misery.
I agree with you Tambay and I am a woman. Its just the Cosby effect. People our age grew up watching Cosby and thought if we just went to college like Clair we will meet Cliff.
What is success anyway? going to college and getting a masters as well as a 80,000 dollar student loan? Just b/c someone is educated doesn’t mean they love their job either. Who are all these people that just have these great careers? I don’t know that many, Most I know who wish they were doing someting else. All this I am so perfect except I have no husband I am not buying. Being mean and judgemental does this girl even want a husband?
“What is success anyway?”
I think that’s the REAL issue here. Andrews seems bitter that she did as she was told, and is still unhappy, probably up to her neck in student loans, car payments, insurance, blah blah blah and in a job rat race that does not edify her, and is now looking for an “escape” via a relationship. Something that I, as a black man under 30, certainly relate to… Many black kids of the 80’s were raised to idealize the “Cosby” image, even though for some of us, that’s just not the lifestyle that is the most spiritually/emotionally gratifying. It’s unfortunate that we continue to judge each other as black folk by this standard, we’re more invested in the IDEA and IMAGE of success, than we are in defining it on our own terms.
I must admit this convo. has been the highlight of my week. I mean I also finished editing this short but that wasn’t as entertaining as this.
Is this young buppie sister so intoxicated with 20 something angst, she cant distinquish between her tippiong point and vying for the latest “Ohrah Winfrey Sweepstakes”? this is yet another excursion into the “dismantling of the all elusive-maligned black male’ and those vacariously,misbegotten misdeeds of his. give me a break!
I only browsed through the article but there are plenty of movies about women and their dating troubles, what’s so wrong with this one lady telling her story? There are so few movies that center on female characters.